Exploring the relationship to yourself
Heartfelt mindfulness and Intuition. What does that mean?
When we become aware, we have agency, and some autonomy.
This isn't always easy - it can get messy. We build resilience and tolerance of it all (most of the time), by the practice of anchoring in to who we are and our common humanity.
Mind·ful·ness is defined as:
noun
1. the quality or state of being conscious or aware of something.
2. a mental state achieved by focusing one's awareness on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting one's feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations, used as a therapeutic technique.
I use slightly different words than "achieving" a "mental state" - I bring in "Effortless Mastery" by Kenny Werner, and avoid "end gaining" a "state". Where we may become attached to the results, and over identify our self worth with achieving desired outcomes or states.
As with any "state" we're in, it comes and goes, so we cannot "achieve" it. At the same time, when we train in it, we can have moments of mastery of this mental state - like in an audition or performance. This intense focus training we've done, can also tip us into a state of Flow. That state also comes and goes.
Heartfelt mindfulness is a life long engagement, which deepens over time, and becomes integrated into all aspects of life. And (!) Oh yes, I will be in and out of that "mental state" for the rest of my life. No one can be in any state 100% of the time.
This is where the heart felt acceptance, resilience and compassion comes in - it looks simple and can be a little messy.
Intuition? We value and notice our thoughts and felt senses. We also notice and value those nudges that direct you - your inner compass. That nudge that said "music is it"! or "that's the teacher for me" or "take that course". It takes courage to experiment, to be open to education and shared experience.
This is not therapy, I am not a therapist or counsellor. I am a Life Coach, performer, teacher & mentor, with 27 years experience in a professional orchestra, 18 years at a University, 12 years Founder of Pender Island Flute Retreat Inc., in my 6th year as a MWL coach. I follow ICF code of ethics.
You can get more of a sense of the difference between coaching and therapy here:
Coaching vs. Therapy
Coaching is about process; therapy is about healing.
Coaching is about action; therapy is about understanding thoughts and behaviours.(I do both)
Coaching is about momentum; therapy is about safety. (we collectively provide the safety container as a foundation for momentum - a soft place to land)
Coaching is about intuition; therapy is about feelings.(we mindfully notice and value our thoughts, feelings and senses as we invite intuition in too!)
Coaching is about joy and fulfillment; therapy is about moving towards happiness.(we also hold space for processing disappointment and loss)
Coaching is about performance; therapy is about progressing.
Coaching is about synchronicity; therapy is about timing.
Coaching is about attraction; therapy is about protecting.
Coaching is about creating; therapy is about resolving.
Source: Thomas Leonard
- We're learning about our brain, body, breath and boundaries and how they work together to provide greater ease and resilience in and out of the practice room and on stage.
- We apply what we've learned about through movement, breathing & focus exercises. We will unpack our habits - those we want to keep and those that no longer serve You (your values, goals, passion), or music, or the community.
When we become aware, we have agency, and some autonomy.
This isn't always easy - it can get messy. We build resilience and tolerance of it all (most of the time), by the practice of anchoring in to who we are and our common humanity.
Mind·ful·ness is defined as:
noun
1. the quality or state of being conscious or aware of something.
2. a mental state achieved by focusing one's awareness on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting one's feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations, used as a therapeutic technique.
I use slightly different words than "achieving" a "mental state" - I bring in "Effortless Mastery" by Kenny Werner, and avoid "end gaining" a "state". Where we may become attached to the results, and over identify our self worth with achieving desired outcomes or states.
As with any "state" we're in, it comes and goes, so we cannot "achieve" it. At the same time, when we train in it, we can have moments of mastery of this mental state - like in an audition or performance. This intense focus training we've done, can also tip us into a state of Flow. That state also comes and goes.
Heartfelt mindfulness is a life long engagement, which deepens over time, and becomes integrated into all aspects of life. And (!) Oh yes, I will be in and out of that "mental state" for the rest of my life. No one can be in any state 100% of the time.
This is where the heart felt acceptance, resilience and compassion comes in - it looks simple and can be a little messy.
Intuition? We value and notice our thoughts and felt senses. We also notice and value those nudges that direct you - your inner compass. That nudge that said "music is it"! or "that's the teacher for me" or "take that course". It takes courage to experiment, to be open to education and shared experience.
This is not therapy, I am not a therapist or counsellor. I am a Life Coach, performer, teacher & mentor, with 27 years experience in a professional orchestra, 18 years at a University, 12 years Founder of Pender Island Flute Retreat Inc., in my 6th year as a MWL coach. I follow ICF code of ethics.
You can get more of a sense of the difference between coaching and therapy here:
Coaching vs. Therapy
Coaching is about process; therapy is about healing.
Coaching is about action; therapy is about understanding thoughts and behaviours.(I do both)
Coaching is about momentum; therapy is about safety. (we collectively provide the safety container as a foundation for momentum - a soft place to land)
Coaching is about intuition; therapy is about feelings.(we mindfully notice and value our thoughts, feelings and senses as we invite intuition in too!)
Coaching is about joy and fulfillment; therapy is about moving towards happiness.(we also hold space for processing disappointment and loss)
Coaching is about performance; therapy is about progressing.
Coaching is about synchronicity; therapy is about timing.
Coaching is about attraction; therapy is about protecting.
Coaching is about creating; therapy is about resolving.
Source: Thomas Leonard
